Hello. It’s Honoka.
I have a crush on Italians, but I won’t go into details here (he’s a reader of my blog).
At that time, I have received useful advice from my Italian friend for all those who are in love (especially those who have unrequited love), so I will introduce it today. I pray that this advice will be meaningful to all those who are in love, especially those who are in international romance (for those love foreigner).
- Just keep writing a message to those who you love
- A more casual way to speak instead of exchanging numbers
- You don’t have to worry about what to do if the other person hates you
- How to send an effective message
Just keep writing a message to those who you love
The only advice she gave me was to keep writing messages to him very often. The message can be trivial. “What are you doing today?”, “What did you do yesterday?”, “What do you want to do tomorrow?” First of all, she told me many times that she needed to be willing to send her message. “If you have someone you like, never give up on it,” he said many times.
Her advice is grounded. She is in love with a Japanese man and she will get married soon. She was sometimes troubled by cultural differences, but in the end the advice led her to success. I pray for her happiness from the bottom of my heart.
A more casual way to speak instead of exchanging numbers
This is what I thought based on her advice, but it’s easier to talk in Instagram messages than in chats like WhatsApp. Because, by using the story function, you can talk without having to worry about the topic. Even if the other person doesn’t write stories or posts often, if you find something interesting or beautiful, share it. You don’t have to think about all the content yourself. And it’s perfect if you say, “This is nice, I want you to see it.”
Also, if someone you are not familiar with tells you to exchange your smartphone number, the other person will be wary. However, with Instagram accounts, the hurdles to exchange are low. In fact, when I said to exchange something that was a way to chat privately with the opposite sex or the same sex (not for romantic purposes), I was told, “I’m a little worried about my smartphone number, but Instagram is okay.” there is.
You don’t have to worry about what to do if the other person hates you
Adler, who is famous for Adler psychology, has left the phrase “freedom is hated by others.” In fact, the only way to get freedom (here, to be loved by your loved ones) is to choose some disliked risk. Because if the other person doesn’t send a message to you and you don’t send a message to the other person, the love will never succeed. Unless at some point one of them shows an attitude of “I want to know more about you,” love will not go any further.
If the other person hates you, you will understand it in some way if you are sensitive. You should definitely appeal, at least if the other person doesn’t hate you and doesn’t have a bad impression.
You are neither an “acquaintance” nor a “friend” to him, but you want to have a deeper and closer relationship. Then there is no other way but to act.
How to send an effective message
So far, I’ve written over 1500 characters (Japanese version) that “you should actively send a message to someone you like.” However, there are two effective ways to send a message. I will introduce it and end this article. If you just send a meaningless message, it will be counterproductive rather than meaningless.
Make a message that can reply to
“Good morning. Yesterday I went to Rome. I saw the Colosseum and the Trevi Fountain, ate carbonara and came back. Here is the picture.”
For example, if you see a message like this, the other person will not reply. Because this is just a report. Even if you receive such a report from someone you are not familiar with, it is unlikely that you will develop a love affair.
At the end of this article, for example, “Do you know the delicious shops in Carbonara?” “Have you been to Rome?” “You know a nice tourist destination near Rome. You should write some questions, such as “Are you there?” Doing so will make it easier for the other person to reply. That way, you can encourage conversations ahead.
Write a message longer than his/her message
It would be a waste if the other person returned a message and answered it casually. You should write a message that is longer than the other person’s message in order to convey the meaning that you value the message that the other person gave you and to move the conversation forward.
I hope these advices will make your love a success.