The stories of others who have recovered from a mental illness are quite useless

Hello. Today, I would like to write a concrete example of the “experience stories of people who have recovered from the mental illness that is overflowing in the world” that were not useful. All of these are books, written in the media, or heard from a friend. The “friend” in the last case, most likely, advises me with 100% good intentions, but in fact my condition didn’t improve, it was even more hurt.

“Parents (family) helped me”

The home is a basic place, and for many people the family is the most important thing. I think so, too. However, there are exceptions to the world, and there are many “poisonous parents” such as parents who do not understand, parents who do not snuggle up, parents who have no affection, and parents who control children.
However, parents cannot choose children, and children cannot choose parents. There is a saying in Italy that “bad people are always pregnant”, but it means that people who are not able to raise their children are more pregnant or have children.

“My boyfriend / girlfriend loves me a lot”

This is a common case when looking at people who have recovered from a mental illness. Such a person appears out of nowhere, falls in love, and lives a happy life in which you love him and you are loved by him. I feel that this is more common in women.
Love is great, of course, but it often gets sick. For example, you make a phone call every minute, you have a lot of bondage and addiction, and you want to kill the other person because you like it. It is difficult to love a person “rightly” during times of mental instability.
However, they can also be violent (not limited to physical ones) from people they trust, which can lead to trauma and other mental illnesses.

“I blogged about my experience! (Price: 80 euros)”

There are “information products” in the world, and not all of them are bad, but some of them cost exorbitant prices. In Japan, it is provided through a service called “note”, and although the content is less than one paperback book, many of them cost more than 50 euros. However, “note” has a lot of useful information that is open to the public for free.
I don’t want to deny selling experience as an information product. I think each life is worth talking about and should be read. But trying to get enthusiastic followers at an exorbitant price on it doesn’t make a very good impression on me.

“There is no mental illness! Mental illness is a mistake in Western medicine. Knowing the right treatment will surely save you!”

In Japan, there is a Chinese medicine (a medicine used by oriental medicine that uses natural ingredients), which helps some people very much. There is an herbal tea called tisana in Italy, which removes some insomnia and anxiety.
But what the person who says like this headline wants to convey is not such a conscientious thing. Often conspiracy theories, unscientific information, and medically wrong. Often, the result of believing in such things is even worse. They don’t want to save people, they just want to justify what they are saying. But most of them are well-meaning and counsel, and they believe that their beliefs can save people.

“If you have sex, you won’t have any bad things!”

This may be true. However, people with mental illness rarely want to have sex. This is because even though there are major obstacles to daily life, there is no room to do things outside the scope of daily life. For example, few people who have cancer recommend sex to those who have fallen asleep due to the side effects of anticancer drugs.
Most of the people who actually tell me that are sex addicts who need medical care.
In addition, having sex is traumatic for people who have mental illness due to abuse or domestic violence. Also, asexual LGBT person (as I am) often suffers from sex itself.

“God loves you. God will save you.”

This is true for me as a Christian. However, it is clear that people who are fighting with a mental illness will not be heard at all even if they say, “God is on your side, so never lose.”
And in many cases, the goal of those who say this is to solicit new religions. I will avoid posting specific names here, but the homepages of new religions have pages for such people and are actively enlightening them. New religions are religions that are not recognized as Christians and are often radical, immoral, and medically incorrect (for example, some religions prohibit blood transfusions). Some say that they are happy who believe in new religions, but I don’t want them to be forced on others. In fact she doesn’t make a persistent solicitation to me.

Conclusion

Even if you recover from a mental illness, each person’s medical condition and environment are different, and it is hardly helpful. After all, the only thing you can count on is someone who really understands, that is, family, friends, and healthcare professionals, and recovery is surprisingly fast.
Therefore, no matter how many reviews “This doctor is the worst!”, If it is an understanding person, it is a doctor that works for that person. On the contrary, even if it is said that “this doctor is very kind”, there are many cases where it does not suit the person. Medical professionals in psychiatry (doctors, clinical psychologists, etc.) can be broadly divided into two types. Someone who just listens and listens for hours, or someone who gives you the right advice. I prefer the latter, but this varies from person to person.
I hope you can meet a good understanding person.